No sex please, we're British.
Sex is everywhere. As much as we Brits present a façade of
prudery, sex is an undeniable part of our culture. The Beatles sang
All you need is love, while advertisers sex up everything from bras
Yet still we strive to avoid the unavoidable, and in the
process, belittle sexual problems despite the huge impact they can
have. We shouldn't avoid discussing sex any longer; we have to
break free from this taboo.
We all strive to find love in our lives at some point, usually
accompanied by some form of sexual intimacy. Even without a
partner, feeling sexy has a positive effect on our mood and how we
feel about ourselves.
Given this, it's surprising how difficult we find it to talk
about, even within the intimacy of a relationship. And we're like
this as a society too - we don't say what we think about sex, so we
often ignore sexual difficulties, or don't give them the priority
When illnesses such as prostate cancer affect our sex lives, the
changes can be extremely distressing. It's not only the physical
effects, but also changes in sexual identity which can have an
The stigma of talking about sex is a real barrier to
information. Lots of men don't know about the solutions that might
be available. And they are unlikely to ask for the help they
deserve if they think they're facing it alone.
Prostate Cancer UK and the Sexual Advice Association are
determined to overcome the old fashioned idea, 'we don't talk about
sex'. On the contrary, discussing sex is the only way to improve
support and care and to make sure that no-one is left alone to
suffer physically or emotionally. Knowing how and where to find
help is a key part of breaking this destructive taboo.
Watch the Prostate Cancer UK videos and read
more about prostate cancer and your
You can also email or call the Prostate Cancer UK Specialist
Nurses on the confidential helpline.
Lorraine is a trustee of the Sexual Advice Association which provides
detailed information on treatments for erection problems on their
website or through their helpline on 0207 486 7262.